Friday Thoughts: The Jewellers and Saviours of Our Lives

There are some who enter our lives with good intentions but end up causing havoc. Jewellers and saviours are two kinds of people we may encounter.

Jewellers are those who discover and evaluate your worth, make you believe you are a precious gem. You are super pleased about finding such folks. Your self-confidence goes through the roof.

Before you know it, you have abdicated the certificate of personal worth to them. It may seem that if it was not for them telling you of your true worth or evaluating the level of your worth, you would remain cast as a piece of coal. You become dependent on them psychically.

Consider this message:

“What you've never accepted is that you are very close to the pinnacle. Of all the people I know, you are one of the rare ones so close to the pinnacle. I wish you would believe it. You lack of belief is the only thing that stops you from reaching the top. Not everyone has the gifts you have XXX. You must not doubt it. And I mean that with all my heart and soul.

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Imagine that you are trying desperately to tell a man sitting on the beach that the stones he is throwing away are diamonds- but he laughs at you and refuses to hear you. You argue and tear your hair out but he doesn't believe you. You know how you'd feel if you saw his pile of stones slowly diminishing? That's how I feel sometimes.”

Consider this message:

“I consider you as one of the most sensitive, inclusive and tender persons I have met in my entire life. You are full of meaning and warmth, which is so rare to find in this world.”

What happens when you read or hear them? You are blown away by the magic of yourself. Dang, I am the One the world is waiting for! And now you develop a relationship with them because they are the ones who know your real worth. You get caught in a spiral.

Till one day, you use that brilliance of the mind and deep perceptiveness of being close to pinnacle, on them. You put together meanings of life moments with them and lay it out.

That is when you discover the jeweller is pleased only as long as you shine light on others and remain an unspeaking gem in their hand. Without a question, without a doubt. [You can analyse a movie brilliantly but that is where it all should end]

The jeweller, you realize to your amazement, is and was the Right One and you, the mere earthling graced by their presence and kindness and now--ungrateful, disobedient and disappointing.

You have offended the Right One and therefore of no worth. Your brilliance is now a zero, your sensitivity absent. You are on the foothills of life.

Just like that.

Unless you repent. And sometimes not even after that.

There is another group of well-intentioned people. They are the saviours. They are the ones who always know your flaws, your imperfections and seek to correct it. They believe they need to kindle light within you.

They may try to correct your behaviour (without you voluntarily submitting to the correction). Or they may try to find a job or professional area that is right for you (without you ever having asked for advice). Or correct your lifestyle—your schedules, your eating habits, what you listen or see.

They feel terrible that you lead the life that you do and even get upset about it. They are certain about the direction in which you need to change.

Now, if you are suffering from low self-esteem or going through a phase of vulnerability, their words hit the right soft spot in your brain and mush it all up. Whatever light is there within flutters worse, dims out. You walk around in darkness, in the horrible weight of your being.

In the meantime, they hang on, the utterly perfect knowing compassionate beings, in the supreme bliss of saving.

Friends, if you want to avoid a psychic collapse, thanks to the wonderful intentions of both jewellers and saviours—stay real. Be your own check. Read, learn and do your own activities to trace your path and work on your intuition to know how you need to work on yourself.

Don’t hold ill-will against the jewellers and saviours of your life. They are temptations, Buddha’s temptations. Stay detached to all that they say. And keep distance.

They think they mean well but they are not healed; they are still on a long journey themselves. Your only guide is an enlightened Buddha or Guru or the Universe or higher Self—as you will. No one else is.

Do NOT submit to anyone else.

Silence, simple life, simple food, sharing, introspection, meditation are some of the ways you can connect with yourself, so say enlightened beings in various traditions.

We each are gems awaiting to shine. If not in this lifetime or life moment, then at some other moment or lifetime.

But we each are a Buddha in making.