Albuquerque Sighs, Chennai Calls-I

I love Abq—like that incredible love which did not end in marriage but remains in your heart as a sigh. Even today, I find myself tossing, yearning for her sight, her heat—an embrace.

Chennai is my arranged marriage, fixed by destiny. And like that first year of marriage, I wince uncomfortably, worried and tense. Slowly, ever so slowly, I begin to rock into that companionship.

As somebody who is still in love with the other, I watch with a certain dispassion the city breathing and smile...

Some snippets from my observations May-Dec 2011

Life unfolding in Chennai bus:

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How do you know there is a festival in Chennai? By jasmine flowers. The no. of women wearing jasmine flowers in their hair in a crowded Chennai bus is directly proportional to the presence and significance of a festival to most of the community. So there was a festival in Chennai today...

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Lessons in Crowded Chennai Bus: when you pass money for ticket for passenger at one end of the bus to the conductor at the other end: listen intently for which bus stop (active listening), pronounce name correctly(Chinese whisper), remember who sent how much money for which stop(memorization), send correct balance through(math), conflict negotiation when you don't send the right amount/ticket to the right person, innovation (when conductor runs out of change, ask two people to collaborate and buy ticket together)!!!!

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Today in a crowded Chennai bus, a young woman unable to find suitable hold, held on to my arm through her journey. This is my first experience being an actual "pillar of support" to anyone:)

Life unfolding in Chennai auto:

I love auto rides. This evening my auto driver was a versatile guy whose conversation topics ranged from preventing alcoholism with compassion, through cynical realities of marriage all the way to Vedic mathematics and numerology. At the end of the ride, I told him that for the first time I did not want to get down but rather go on another long ride--talking and conversing with this extraordinary man. He smiled and replied--aah, it gives me happiness when my passengers are happy-- it is not just money, you know... My salute to the unknown gems on Chennai street!

Laughs:

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One needs to lose weight in Chennai: not for health or beauty but so that: you can squeeze into overcrowded share auto, move past milling bodies in a crowded bus to alight at your stop on time, to slip through crevices & gaps in an interminable road partition, and deftly swing through chaos at shopping blocs to be able to place your order:)

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Today I used the washroom at American Library and lo, like in Matrix, I entered into United States, right into the washroom of my department in University of NM--same arrangement and size of stall, one slightly longer for disabled and women with babies, same position for toilet roll, same set of washbasins and soap, handtowels and a disposal bin below--I smiled and felt at home...till my eyes spotted a poster-"please do not wash your vessels here." Grin--the story of the American loo in India:)

Sweet Moments:

Never been a fan of garish Ganesh pandals with blaring disco music but there's something utterly beautiful about loudspeaker sounds of hesitant, mixed-up chants from 20 odd lil' girls, seated on a tarpaulin sheet, all dressed-up before a towering but cuddly elephant-face Ganesh in a crowded roadside pandal in Chennai.

And then there are moments I long for my love and Albuquerque sighs...

I watch the ponytail grass sway with the breeze--this way now, that way next--gracefully and without losing her structure or sense of being. At some level I begin to understand what detachment is--an ability to adapt and let go while being firmly planted within.